Take a few moments and think to yourself about the question “What is my primary vocation?”
If you’re on this site, you’re probably discerning a vocation to priesthood, brotherhood, sisterhood, or marriage. But before one does that, they first have to acknowledge their primary vocation in life: to be a saint. The word vocation and the name of this site both come from the Latin word “vocare”, which means “to call.” When we are baptized, God adopts us as His sons and daughters and through that adoption calls us to be with Him forever in Heaven. In Lumen Gentium, a dogmatic constitution promulgated during Vatican II, Pope Paul VI writes
…all the faithful, whatever their condition or state, are called by the Lord, each in his own way, to that perfect holiness whereby the Father Himself is perfect.
That means that before we figure out whether we are called to marriage, to priesthood, or to consecrated life, we need to begin to conform ourselves to Christ. When I first began discerning in college, my prayer life was the bare minimum required by the Church. I went to Mass on Sundays, went to confession when needed, and maybe said a few prayers before bed. That was no way to discern a call to priesthood, however. How can one discern if they are called to be another Christ if they do not first know Christ Himself?
Soon after beginning my discernment, I started to say the rosary more regularly and attend daily Mass at least once a week. Try to work in more prayer in your life – a Memorare there and a Divine Mercy Chaplet there add up and make a world of difference. Come closer to Christ who calls you and you will hear Him clearer.